Driver’s licens… Why not parent’s licens?
July 25th, 2009 | Author: Christian Thostrup
Today in this modern society we must be able to acquire a ton of licenses.
To ensure that we have a somewhat decent group of individuals that are able to maneuver certain vehicles we got licenses. Drivers’ licenses, pilot licenses and what not.
Why stop here? Why not ensure that the majority of to be parents are equppied to be able to take care of a child. Yeah I know that even though we got the system with licenses we got people who are shitty drivers, and there will always be shitty parents aswell.
I just feel that there is not much that I was told about being a parent. It was more like crash-and-learn. Of course we had help from the healthcare system about nurture but how to bring your child up, how to raise it, what to tell it, you are never told that.
You may say that is a private matter. But wouldn’t you be rather upset if someone raised their children being anti-semitic and just a outright arsehole?
Or a religious fanatic?
In such matters I think it is more healthy for the state to take action and remove these children, and also teach them how to be proper humans.
A religious upbringing in my book is also unhealthy, you can teach the same morale and etc. Without the twist that some superior entity told it to be so.
Should anyone become a parent?
Or should one have a licens to become one?
/Tylzen
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I don’t think it’s a good idea. I don’t want the government to tell me how to raise my child. If I say candy is okay on a tuesday afternoon even though the government says it’s only okay on saturday nights, I don’t want to be labeled as a bad mother. (Terrible argument, but I hope you get the meaning of it)
I agree with Anthony: Parenting is an unique thing, it differs from every couple (or single parent).
I do think the system as we know it today could be (much!) better, but I don’t think this is the solution.
I say it depends on the degree of religious fundamentalism. I would say that it is still bad for a child to be raised with the belief that Earth is 6000 years old and that if you don’t follow what the Bible says regardless of how dated the message may be you will suffer for all eternity. Even if the parents never hurt their children and were nice.
But yeah the debate is way too big for a single blog entry
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“It puts the lotion on when its told.”
You could, but on the flipside, who is to define where the boundaries of that sort of stability are? There are some healthy equilibriums, again, you can’t say that all religious people are crazy and bring their children up crazy. I know of many religious people who are very nice, very good parents and have given their children the freedom to choose their own religion. Just because they believe in god, doesn’t mean they’re crazy.
I just think the situation is far too complicated to broken down so much and discussing it in the comments section of a blog post isn’t likely to get us anywhere really. This is a huge, worldwide issue and while too important to be ignored and left on the sidelines for too long, for the sake of the children who are at risk, it also cannot be jumped into with something as major as a license to be a parent.
Ideally, it wouldn’t even be an issue and perhaps, in a few generations from now it won’t be and everyone will have the common sense to raise a child well. Until then… well, a solution does need to be found. I just think it’s going to be much more complicated than a license.
Tylzen is sexy.
You got some valid points Anthony.
Must the child’s physical welfare be at stake before society take action? What about its pshycological health? If it is brought up in a home where it is taught that if it does something wrong or against the will of its parents then it will suffer in all eternity in Hell.
That is some nightmare image to convience a child of.
You could use the schools as some sort of a screening place to see if a child is brought up in a home with some wild ideas that could hurt the child’s prospects of being a fully functional human being.
It’s a valid concern perhaps, that many children are brought up badly, that’s a fact and cannot be disputed, but a parents licence? That’s a horrible idea. Firstly, governments pry far too much into family life when they have no right to do so. Honest, loving, hardworking parents are under constant scrutiny, expected to screw up in some way. That is wrong. Completely.
Secondly, YOU CANNOT TEACH PARENTING. I’m not a parent yet myself, so I won’t presume to know what it’s like, but I most certainly do know that the experience of parenthood is unique to everyone and everyone will have their own form of parenting, their own ideas and methods. Teaching someone how to be a parent, detaches them from the child and makes it so that the parent/child relationship is less special, less unique, being a generalised, vanilla experience for both as both grow and mature. I think parenting should be enjoyable, it should be natural and beautiful, not strictly monitored and controlled.
I understand that there are people too dumb to be parents, but can we really take away their right to BE parents, just because of that? The next step from there is Eugenics. It needs to be made clear that the state has to mind its own fucking business when it comes to decent people and not interfere unless the welfare of the child is at stake. I mean, how the hell can they be trusted when the school systems are as awful as they are? When everyone is treated the same like in some sort of Orwellian dystopia.
That’s my two cents at least.
that’s an excellent idea, because nowadays parents don’t know how to raise their children, an example is my neighborhood.